The difference of being in a relationship between
A REAL MAN VS. A PLAYER
A REAL MAN VS. A PLAYER
This also goes out to Christian women dating a non-believer (I am not talking about a religion but, one without a solid relationship w/ Christ).
I.
REAL MAN
Has a relationship w/ Christ & can talk about Him openly.
REAL MAN
Has a relationship w/ Christ & can talk about Him openly.
PLAYER
*A bit allergic. Prolly gets bored while while you talk & is not interested to hear you out again. You are maybe even exposing him. Napapaso kumbaga.
*A bit allergic. Prolly gets bored while while you talk & is not interested to hear you out again. You are maybe even exposing him. Napapaso kumbaga.
II.
REAL MAN
He cares about your problems even if it doesn't concern him and encourages you with the word of God.
He cares about your problems even if it doesn't concern him and encourages you with the word of God.
PLAYER
*He may not want you at all instead, needs you for something else, could be carnal pleasures.
*He's self-centered & all he wants is what life can offer him at the moment.
*He may not want you at all instead, needs you for something else, could be carnal pleasures.
*He's self-centered & all he wants is what life can offer him at the moment.
*He doesn't really care what you're going through.
III.
REAL MAN
REAL MAN
You both don't party and drink and does wholesome things
together.
together.
PLAYER
*Will he even accept that? Or he might even get bored with you.
*He is out at night drinking & you can't come coz it's not your thing or can't come coz it's not your thing or lifestyle anymore. You live in 2 unmitigatedly different worlds!
IV.
REAL MAN
REAL MAN
You both go to church.
PLAYER
*Will he even want to go with you or make an effort?
*Will he even want to go with you or make an effort?
V.
REAL MAN
He is faithful & loyal.
REAL MAN
He is faithful & loyal.
PLAYER
* He might leave you for someone else, SOMEONE HOTTER.
* He might leave you for someone else, SOMEONE HOTTER.
VI.
REAL MAN
He doesn't flirt with other girls. He knows what is right from wrong and not because he can't do it but, he doesn't want to even when no one is looking. He is satisfied with you. When he
is driven under temptation they ask God for help & grace to overcome.
PLAYER
*There's a 99% chance HE WILL esp. once he is bored with you. But players are never satisfied and
PLAYER
*There's a 99% chance HE WILL esp. once he is bored with you. But players are never satisfied and
will follow their flesh or "hype" of the moment. Definitely not worth it.
VII.
REAL MAN
He is willing to change and be molded by God.
REAL MAN
He is willing to change and be molded by God.
PLAYER
*Too proud or egotisic to change. Will even tell you, "This is who I am. So, deal w/ it."
*Too proud or egotisic to change. Will even tell you, "This is who I am. So, deal w/ it."
VIII.
REAL MAN
Afraid & doesn't plan to hurt you.
REAL MAN
Afraid & doesn't plan to hurt you.
PLAYER
*May hurt you along the way because all he cares about is himself.
*May hurt you along the way because all he cares about is himself.
IX.
REAL MAN
Will not try to steal someone else's woman.
PLAYER
REAL MAN
Will not try to steal someone else's woman.
PLAYER
* "Don't care. I will steal her if I want to. "Di pa naman kasal eh (they're not married yet)."
X.
REAL MAN
Will back away once he knows a person is taken & doesn't want to cause harm/conflict.
PLAYER
REAL MAN
Will back away once he knows a person is taken & doesn't want to cause harm/conflict.
PLAYER
* "I WILL NOT BACK AWAY COZ I'M A MAN!!! I will follow my pleasures all the way!
XI.
REAL MAN
Will not use you for any personal gain.
REAL MAN
Will not use you for any personal gain.
PLAYER
* Will most likely do. Money? Fame? Trophy GF? Or maybe an accessory coz me thinks your HOT! Makes you a fine booty call too!
* Will most likely do. Money? Fame? Trophy GF? Or maybe an accessory coz me thinks your HOT! Makes you a fine booty call too!
XII.
REAL MAN
Accepts who you are even the embarrassing sides of you or weaknesses or even what you do for a living. He doesn't care as long as he loves you.
REAL MAN
Accepts who you are even the embarrassing sides of you or weaknesses or even what you do for a living. He doesn't care as long as he loves you.
PLAYER
* Ask yourself, "Will he accept me in a lowly job or that I am not rich yet or doesn't have a car? If he sees me in my work or what I do, will he find it embarrassing? Will he still love me?
* Ask yourself, "Will he accept me in a lowly job or that I am not rich yet or doesn't have a car? If he sees me in my work or what I do, will he find it embarrassing? Will he still love me?
XIII.
REAL MAN
Will support you in the things you wanna do even if he doesn't like it.
REAL MAN
Will support you in the things you wanna do even if he doesn't like it.
(Exhibit A: Cosplay Cons=geek overload). He wants you & helps you becomes successful. He will not stop you from having a career of your own. He will befriend all your friends & get to know them genuinely & trusts you that you have only eyes for him.
PLAYER * Will he support you in what you love to do? Will he even go with you to cons? He might even force you to be a stay-at home wife coz he doesn't want exposing you to any men other than himself. But, he also wants other women to himself) You can't but he can!
PLAYER * Will he support you in what you love to do? Will he even go with you to cons? He might even force you to be a stay-at home wife coz he doesn't want exposing you to any men other than himself. But, he also wants other women to himself) You can't but he can!
* He'll ban you from your guy friends & tells you to stop being friends & hanging out w/ them.
XIV.
REAL MAN
XIV.
REAL MAN
He will be loyal and faithful to the end & will always try to better himself for you and the family.
PLAYER
PLAYER
* Might even be playing around w/ girls w/o you even knowing about it, thinking: "OK lang, basta hindi mahuli (it's okay as long as she doesn't catch me)."
XV.
REAL MAN
Trustworthy even from a distance you cannot see each other at the moment or maybe even he's out of the country or a seaman.You can trust him that he will not do anything stupid or something that will give you doubt. He will make efforts to gain your trust & would not want to ruin it.
PLAYER * He's prolly already out getting drunk w/ w/ his friends and flirting w/ girls. And his excuse is this: they have a business mtg. he has to attend & will come home late. he is and can't help but think he is w/ someone else.
REAL MAN
Trustworthy even from a distance you cannot see each other at the moment or maybe even he's out of the country or a seaman.You can trust him that he will not do anything stupid or something that will give you doubt. He will make efforts to gain your trust & would not want to ruin it.
PLAYER * He's prolly already out getting drunk w/ w/ his friends and flirting w/ girls. And his excuse is this: they have a business mtg. he has to attend & will come home late. he is and can't help but think he is w/ someone else.
*Your heart is always doubtful & not at peace. You're always worried where he is.
XVI.
REAL MAN
He is WILLING TO WAIT in marriage, sex, etc.)
PLAYER
REAL MAN
He is WILLING TO WAIT in marriage, sex, etc.)
PLAYER
* HE WANTS IT NOW bec. of *ehem* personal issues.
XVII.
REAL MAN
He will save sex for marriage & will honor & respect your body. A real man will bring you to his house to meet his parents not when its empty.
REAL MAN
He will save sex for marriage & will honor & respect your body. A real man will bring you to his house to meet his parents not when its empty.
PLAYER
* He'll keep trying ways to get you in bed may that be subtly giving hints or force you. & use your emotions against you with an overly ridiculous pick-up line: "If you love me, you'll have sex w/ me."
XVIII.
REAL MAN
He won't even touch a hair on your head.
PLAYER
* He'll beat the crap out of you if you don't submit to his demands or when he just feels like it and makes you his personal punching bag coz he's drunk or drugged.
REAL MAN
He won't even touch a hair on your head.
PLAYER
* He'll beat the crap out of you if you don't submit to his demands or when he just feels like it and makes you his personal punching bag coz he's drunk or drugged.
XIX.
REAL MAN
He sees you having a relationship w/ Christ is BEAUTIFUL.
PLAYER
REAL MAN
He sees you having a relationship w/ Christ is BEAUTIFUL.
PLAYER
* BOOOOOOOOOOOORIIIIING! We can't party & have sex. Too holy!
XX.
REAL MAN
If you try to break up w/ him eventhough you really don't want to and tests if he's gonna come after you - HE WILL. He'll do everything to SAVE your relationship, compromise & work it out.
PLAYER
REAL MAN
If you try to break up w/ him eventhough you really don't want to and tests if he's gonna come after you - HE WILL. He'll do everything to SAVE your relationship, compromise & work it out.
PLAYER
* Says, "No problem. I can replace you in an instant. This is freedom for me." (But in reality, ends up miserable & regretful after he had partied for awhile & let loose he calls you to take him back. LOL).
I am not saying that a man must perfectly have ALL these qualities and that we must have a checklist. We all know that no one is perfect and we are a work in progress. But, the bible tells us to strive in becoming a better person each day. If ever you fail or have done some of these things don't beat yourself too hard but, accept Christ in your life.
But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. (1 John 1:9 NLT)
God loves you and He is not saying the do's and dont's to show us who's boss. His heart is immutably geared toward for our benefit and protection because He always wants the best for us. :)
But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. (1 John 1:9 NLT)
God loves you and He is not saying the do's and dont's to show us who's boss. His heart is immutably geared toward for our benefit and protection because He always wants the best for us. :)
It's good to have our fathers take their daughters on a date to show them how they should be treated by real men.
As with our Father in heaven, He chose the perfect example and role model of relationships - JESUS CHRIST. And when we put GOD in the center of our relationship, couples move closer together.
See how Jesus relates to the people & how he loved them. He was insulted but did not insult back. They hated him but, He loved them unconditionally til death on the cross. He was ready to lay down his very life from the beginning.
So, how the Father loved the church as His bride so, should the man love his wife/woman. And of course, the wife because of the extravagant love she receives will naturally respond back with respect to her man/husband.
The blessing of the LORD makes one rich, And He adds no sorrow with it. (Proverbs 10:22 NLT)
A relationship that is from heaven is a relationship that will make you rich in joy & peace.
You are His princess, let no one else treat you differently. :)
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